The decision was made astronomically harder by the fact that we have a three year old son and have been determined to minimize the impact on him. It's tempting to use this venue to again deliberate what is The Right Thing To Do, but I'm going to stick to what I know for sure. And, that is, that sewing brings me great comfort and satisfaction even in the hardest of times.
We consulted with a child therapist about how best to care for our son in the context of joint custody; something I highly recommend if you find yourself in a similar situation. One of the suggestions that seemed most helpful--probably because it was concrete--was to create two simple, identical 'calendars' (one for each home) that will represent which of us our son will be with any given day, basically a Where-I-Am-Sleeping-Tonight Calendar (if you can think of a better name, I would love to hear it), and then a Something to represent our son that could be moved between the two locations. As part of our son's arrival and departure to and from our individual homes, he will move the symbolic Something to the location representing where he will be that night. The idea is to give our him a sense of control over what is happening to him and help him to understand where he'll be when, despite the fact that his concept of time is still pretty shaky.
So my solution is above. . . and below.
And, for anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation, here's how I made it.
1. Cut out the following rectangles (keeping in mind that this will give you enough for two pockets):
4- 9"(ish) x 7" of Daddy fabric (DF)
4- 9" x 7" of Mommy fabric (MF)
2- 6"(ish) x 7" DF
2- 6" x 7" MF
4- 9" x 7" fusible interfacing
4- 6" x 7" fusible interfacing
4- 8" length of ribbon, cording, etc for hanging
4- first initials from either or both fabrics
(I recommend drawing out the letter that you want then adding a 3/8"-1/2" seam allowance when you copy it onto the fabric.)
2 (or more, if you want them really fluffy)- cotton quilting batting first initials
2. Long edges and right sides together, join two of the larger DF to two of the larger MF rectangles and one of the smaller DF to one of the smaller MF, for the pockets. Press the seams open.
5. Baste the pocket onto the interfaced large rectangle.
5. Stack your large rectangles right sides together, and colors matched up, with the 2 cords sandwiched in a u-formation on each side. (You could use just one cord in the center. Probably would work just as well.)